I hate the expression: 'Women of a certain age,' referring to a woman that is not old, nor young, and suggests a certain spinsterhood. I'm not married, I'm not young, and I'm certainly not a spinster.
In a culture that is obsessed with youth, no wonder so many women have difficulty aging gracefully. How many faces have been de-characterized and frozen into one single expression under a Doctor's knife? Collagen-injected lips that look unaturally big, a forehead that doesn't move, a line-free face that sits atop a wrinkled neck…It's not a good look on anyone. With all due respect to the deceased, Joan Rivers, was the perfect example.
Yes, we all reach a point where we will no longer be fertile. In our society, that makes us undesirable. No more double takes when we walk down the street or sit on the subway….we become the unseen. Career advancements often go to the younger candidate…we become the over-looked. A woman who is still attractive later in life becomes, the cougar, (an expression that irks me to no end).
I'd like to suggest that, 'Women of a certain age,' should lend itself to an air of sophistication. Experience, brains, and the confidence that comes with age is sexy. A face with lines is interesting…it paints a picture of a life that has been fully lived…laugh lines…worry lines…they are the lines in our story.
So, any of you who are have bypassed the, "May I help you, Miss?" and are now approached with, "How may I assist you M'am?"…Listen up…to hell with the social stigmas. Keep your God-damned lines, you earned them. Appreciate your sagging breasts, they fed your babies. Be grateful you are post-menopausal, your relationship with Tampax is a thing of the past. Don't fret about a larger behind, thighs or arms…they will make a much more comfortable seat for your Grandchildren. Age is only a number, don't ever let it define you.